I'm into romance. i know for most men that is a foreign concept. but that's what gets me "going". Some women are into a quick meet, greet, smash and dash; others like back door action, or lean towards "50 shades"...but if I'm doing this to "spice up" my life.. then what I need is romance. A quickie can be done anytime.. and most men will tie a woman up and spank her with no qualms.. but to find that guy who can romance... THAT is different. I'm more into men than women - but I'm receptive to being a third, assisting in his pleasure, or being the focus of their pleasure :) .. Im even open to being shared by two men. one-at-a time though.. no gang bang or dp..just a bit of grown fun.. all lead up to buy a romantic experience before hand..